Handouts.

For Individual therapy.

  • A cozy scene with a small pumpkin, a mug of whipped cream-topped drink, two cupcakes with white frosting and sprinkles, and a card that reads "My brain has too many tabs open" on a beige cable-knit blanket.

    SIBAM

    The acronym, SIBAM, can be useful reminder in learning to garner inner self-awareness from experiences. Pausing regularly to notice and become aware of the five SIBAM categories related to current situations can allow us access to important information during difficult moments. This awareness then allows us to ultimately allow the body to finish processing the experience to a natural conclusion.

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  • Three bronze sculptures of monkeys sitting on a bench, each with a different pose of covering their ears, eyes, and mouth.

    The Language of Sensation

    When we check into the various categories of SIBAM, being able to name ‘it’ can help tame ‘it.’

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  • Infographic explaining how trauma affects the window of tolerance, showing hyperarousal with angry and overwhelmed reactions, hypoarousal with feeling frozen and numb, and the ideal window of tolerance for handling stress.

    The Window of Tolerance - As described by the NICAMB

    Used as a tool to visualize and determine what a person can do to help themself deal with stress, the Window of Tolerance depicts the optimal zone of “arousal” for a person to function in everyday life. When a person is operating within this zone or window, they can effectively manage and cope with their emotions.

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  • A brick wall with a pattern of various shades of red, brown, black, and gray bricks.

    Identifying My Values

    If your decisions align with your values, worry and doubt about real or perceived consequences can be softened. Even if there are consequences to asserting your boundaries, you may experience more confidence or less fear about your decisions.

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For relational therapy.

  • Two young men holding hands and leaning backwards at night outdoors, smiling and laughing.

    Negative Interaction Cycle

    Most couples who experience conflict or difficult interactions will also notice that they follow a familiar and repetitive pattern - a negative cycle.

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  • A stylized illustration of a person with a thought bubble containing colorful overlapping circles representing different thoughts or ideas.

    Setting and Maintaining Boundaries: DEAR MAN

    Not quite sure how to go about setting a boundary? Not sure what the boundary is even, but you know something isn’t sitting right.

    The DEAR MAN skill focuses on us. We use DEAR MAN to get our wants and needs met, to say no, and to set boundaries.

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  • Two people with short dark hair and earrings sharing an embrace outdoors, one wearing a patterned shirt with a sea turtle and flowers, and the other wearing a brown jacket, against a cloudy sky.

    💬 Taking a Time-Out: A Loving Way to Pause and Reset

    This handout introduces the concept of Time-Outs as a relational tool for pausing conflict with care and intentionality. Rooted in Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy, it offers queer- and poly-affirming guidance for using time-outs to protect connection, regulate emotions, and support repair.

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